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“If you look for truth, you may find comfort in the end; if you look for comfort you will not get either comfort or truth only soft soap and wishful thinking to begin, and in the end, despair.”

- C. S. Lewis

I like my bed. Although it’s nearly fourteen years old, it is still quite comfortable. I sleep well. And the chair in which I now sit behind my desk, with all it’s clever adjustments and levers, is also comfortable. It allows me to focus on work instead of the lower back pain I experienced in my previous chair.

I like this definition of comfort: A state of ease and satisfaction of bodily wants, with freedom from pain and anxiety. Ah yes… “freedom from pain.” That driving force behind most of our unconsciously made decisions, and one of the two things we all really want in life.

But what about the flip side? The absence of comfort can lead to more than just calluses and achy muscles. It builds character, and both inner and outer strength. You know the drill. [Cliché alert!] No pain, no gain. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

However, it’s more than that. The pursuit of a comfortable existence prevents us from experiencing the things that make life worth living. By spending all our time trying to avoid heartache, disappointment and discomfort, we miss out on the really good stuff.

Here’s an example…

After years of debating, my wife and I finally purchased a small Class B camper in 2008, a RoadTrek Adventurous. If you’re not into the RV scene, a Class B gives you best of both worlds. It offers most of the basic features and benefits you get with the bigger rigs, but it drives and can be parked like a minivan – and gets 20MPG. It’s got a turbo diesel Mercedes engine, bathroom, shower, full kitchen, HDTV, sleeps four. The ultimate road trip machine.

But we almost didn’t buy it – because of a fear of being uncomfortable:

  1. We knew it would be expensive to own (discomfort).
  2. Since two adults and two growing boys with all their stuff tend to fill up small spaces quickly, we knew we might feel a bit cramped in there (discomfort).
  3. And since none of us had ever gone camping before, we knew it was quite a leap. What if we couldn’t handle the extra expense, the countless hours of driving, the mosquito bites and bee stings, the hunt for available campsites, and dealing with the odd, seemingly orphaned campground children who always want to tour your vehicle as soon as you pull in? (discomfort)

If you’re not at least a little uncomfortable, it’s not really an adventure. So despite all our feared discomfort, we took the plunge anyway. And despite our actual experienced discomfort, we love our little RV, and all the adventures it has allowed us to take together. Last year alone, it enabled us to explore and camp in Florida, Virgina Beach, Martha’s Vineyard, Cape Cod, Vermont, New Hampshire, and Bar Harbor, Maine.

2009… What a year. And it was all possible because we didn’t run and hide from anticipated discomfort. (OK, I admit, it also helps having an internet business I can run from the beach, campgrounds, I-95 rest stops, Walt Disney World, etc…)

Only by risking to be uncomfortable will you be able to enjoy the best of what life has to offer. Whether it’s taking a backpacking trip across Europe, starting a new business, or having a baby – the good stuff always goes hand in hand with a touch (or more) of inherent discomfort. So don’t let that stop you from doing what you want to do.

It’s not too late to make it a New Year’s resolution for 2010 to break out of your comfort zone. Because if you’re not at least a little uncomfortable, life really isn’t much of an adventure. Invite a little discomfort into your life, and watch what happens. You just might be pleasantly surprised.

“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.”

- Brian Tracy

RoadTrek Adventurous

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The standard pace is for chumps.

I first heard this phrase over at Derek Siver’s blog. Derek is the founder and former president of CD Baby, an online music store for independent musicians. Derek’s story is fascinating. In a nutshell: he went to music school, worked in the music biz for a few years, created a successful business that his customers loved and raved about, sold the business for $22 million, and then, gave most of the proceeds away to charity.

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Derek Sivers

By most accounts, Derek is a success. He’s happy, helps others, treats his work as play, lives his life the way he chooses. So, what’s his secret? According to Derek, every great thing that’s happened to him in his life is due to the “life-changing power of high expectations.”

Before heading off to Berklee College of Music after high school, Derek was mentored by former Berklee instructor, Kimo Williams, who shared with him the paradigm-shattering concept that “there is no speed limit.”

Kimo offered to teach Derek two years worth of music theory and arranging in just a few lessons. “I suspect you can graduate in two years if you understand there’s no speed limit,” Kimo told him. Two and a half years later, Derek graduated.

Derek says:

Kimo’s high expectations set a new pace for me.  He taught me “the standard pace is for chumps” – that the system is designed so anyone can keep up.  If you’re more driven than “just anyone” – you can do so much more than anyone expects.  And this applies to ALL of life – not just school. Ever since our five lessons, high expectations became my norm, and still are to this day.

Too often, we don’t aim high enough, don’t think big enough. We settle, trapped by our own faulty beliefs and self-imposed limitations. I’m a big fan of the work of author, composer, filmmaker and organizational consultant, Robert Fritz. In his book, Your Life As Art, Fritz tells us:

Your beliefs are irrelevant to the creative process. So instead of trying to change your beliefs, observe reality more accurately… Here is reality: You have aspirations. You are where you are now. You will probably have to take a series of actions to get where you want to go. What you think about yourself is irrelevant.

Don’t allow yourself, your business, your life to be limited by your thoughts or fears. Take the leap. Think big. Take chances. Act, now! Remember, the standard pace is for chumps. Expect more from yourself and those around you, and just watch watch what happens…

“A thing long expected takes the form of the unexpected when at last it comes.” - Mark Twain

“Reexamine all that you have been told in school, or in church or in any book. Dismiss whatever insults your soul.” – Walt Whitman

“Don’t bunt. Aim out of the ball park. Aim for the company of immortals.”
- David Ogilvy