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According to a recent report in the Journal of Agricultural and Food Chemistry, a daily dose of wild blueberry juice has been shown to improve the memory of older adults with age-related memory problems and those potentially at risk for dementia.

The study, conducted by scientists from the University of Cincinnati and the National Institutes of Health, showed that volunteers who drank the equivalent of 2-2 1/2 cups of blueberry juice once per day for 12 weeks showed significant improvement on learning and memory tests. No tests were done with blueberry pie, although I’m confident it would have been much more enjoyable for participants than blueberry juice. Of course they would have gotten much fatter in the 12 weeks. But they’d remember everything.

In the study, a control group drank a beverage without blueberry juice. Those drinking the beverage with blueberry juice rather than a placebo showed improvement over the time period, and better memory in general.  The report said, “These preliminary memory findings are encouraging and suggest that consistent supplementation with blueberries may offer an approach to forestall or mitigate neurodegeneration.”

Bottom Line: Blueberries contain polyphenolic compounds, phytochemicals with antioxidant and anti-inflammatory effects which slow brain degeneration. Drink more blueberry juice. It can help prevent long-term memory problems, will help you be less forgetful, and is simply good for your brain.

Note: The study was also partly funded by the Wild Blueberry Association of North America, who would probably want more people to drink blueberry juice. And use blueberry jam instead of strawberry jam. And eat lots and lots of blueberry pie. I like blueberry pie. Best pie I’ve had in my entire life was a blueberry pie.

Ok – quick story…

It’s the autumn of 2008, and we’re camping in Bar Harbor, Maine. I see this woman slowly driving through the campground. People hurriedly approach her, and then leave with something seemingly important in their hands. At the behest of my five-year old son, we rush over to investigate.

Turns out she’s selling homemade pies from the back of her car. I’m not usually one to buy baked goods from strangers in beat-up old station wagons, but the smell – oh, the SMELL. There are only a few left, and they cost nine bucks, but I only have a five spot on me as I’m going for a bike ride with my son. Thanks anyway, maybe next time, I say. But, now get this… she gives it to me anyway, because she simply wants us to have pie!

So this kind-hearted pie-peddling woman hands her creation to me, and I give her my five. I balance the still-warm pie tin filled with all that is good in this world on one hand, and oh so carefully ride back to my wife and other son awaiting us at the campsite. Although it is time to throw some dogs on the grill and have dinner, this pie changes everything. We eat it, quickly. The whole thing, in one sitting. It is simply divine.

I wish I had taken a picture of that pie. And I almost wish there had been a good cup of coffee to accompany it. But making a pot of coffee and taking pictures both take time. And when you’re hungry, and there’s a fresh-baked Maine blueberry pie sitting in front of you, time is something you don’t have. So I devoured my portion of that pie and reverently washed it down with a Sam Adams Oktoberfest.

Homemade blueberry pie and a good beer with those you love. It really doesn’t get better than that.

Blueberry pie and Sam Adams Oktoberfest beer

The only picture... the afterglow

PS – She ended up driving by our campsite on the way out. I gave her another five. Keep the change…

Source: Journal of Agricultural and Food Chemistry
Credits: Blueberry Photo

They say the ground shook for only twenty or thirty seconds. But it was enough to cause houses and buildings to crumble to the ground, burying alive more than 200,000 men, women and children. More than 250,000 were seriously injured. Countless thousands of children who had families a few days ago are now orphans.

Catastrophic damage inside and around the capital city of Port-au-Prince has left tens of thousands of people sleeping in the streets or under plastic sheets in makeshift camps. Medics and relief workers who are treating the survivors are warning us that the next big challenge is to save as many as three million hungry, injured and homeless people from deadly infections and diseases.

The sense of despair is so overwhelming. You probably think there isn’t much you can do, right? But I have news for you. It doesn’t matter how powerless or helpless you may feel, or how broke you may be, or how busy you are…

Because there is something important you can do right now that can help these people who so desperately need us.

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.Yesterday, we paid tribute to Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Many of us (who aren’t self-employed) got the day off from work. Some even took a few moments to contemplate his life, contributions, and ultimate sacrifice. The events in Haiti this past week, along with something Dr. King once said really got me thinking:

“Life’s most persistent and urgent question is:
What are you doing for others?”

I wondered, what, if anything, can I do to help the people of Haiti? Sure, I could (and did) donate some money. But what else? While I don’t have the skills of a trained surgeon, or the means of a billionaire philanthropist, I do have this little blog I recently started. So I figured, if I can get through to just one person – hopefully, you – then I know I will have made a difference, no matter how unsubstantial it may at first seem.

Although better than nothing, a $10, $20 or even $100 donation won’t make much of a dent by itself. But what if we multiplied that by a thousand, ten thousand, or more? If videos can go viral on the web, why can’t donating money and helping people?

I believe it can.

That’s why I’m asking you to help me, help them. Here’s what I’d like you to do. It’s  just two simple steps that won’t take more than a minute or two…

1. Make a small donation

Wait! Before you click away, please hear me out…

I know why you may be thinking of not making a small donation right now. It’s OK. I felt the same way:

“I’m afraid the money I donate will be wasted, stolen, misappropriated, etc.

Yes, some of the money collected by well-meaning charities may not find its way to those who need it. But some of it will, and that’s what matters.

Below, I’ve provided a list by the American Institute of Philanthropy (AIP) of top-rated charities involved in Haitian earthquake relief efforts. They’re a charity watchdog group who issues a letter grade (A+ to F) ratings of nonprofits. These charities received at least an “A” or “B” grade based on the portion of their budget which goes to program services, as well as their their fundraising efficiency.

But maybe you’re thinking…Little Boy of Haiti

“I really don’t have any money to spare right now.”

I know times are tough. But your donation doesn’t have to be sizable. Skip your daily cup of Fourbucks coffee, and give it to a good cause instead. No matter how small, a monetary donation of any kind will make a difference. (There’s another option, too. I’ll explain more in a minute.)

Finally, perhaps you simply think it’s too complicated and time-consuming to send in a donation. Not true. It’s so easy, my six-year old can do it (video coming shortly). It won’t take you more than a minute, I promise.

2. Tell a Friend

Once you’ve made a donation, come back here and use one of the links below to invite someone else to visit this page. You see, people are more likely to take action if someone else they like and respect has already done it. Just imagine the incredible difference you’re making, simply by donating a few bucks and then telling a few people about it. Your friends then come here to see how easy, yet powerful this concept is, and they donate a few bucks.  They then tell other people, who in turn donate a little money, etc..

OK, let’s get started…

First, make your donation. Here are your options:

Giving Option 1: Send a cell phone SMS text message to one of numbers below. The donation will then be added to your cell phone bill:

Really – it doesn’t get any easier than this.

Giving Option 2: Choose an organization from the list below, visit their web site, and make your donation by submitting the form on their site. Here is the list of organizations which have been highly rated by the American Institute of Philanthropy and are helping those in need in Haiti:

There are many joys to self-employment. No boss. No commute. No deadlines (other than the ones that are self-imposed). I’m there to put my kids on the bus in the morning, and I walk them home in the afternoon. I make my own schedule, and come and go as I please. I usually go to work in jeans, and have been known to enjoy a late afternoon beer at my desk. That’s how I roll…

jack-the-shiningSure, there are some downsides to working for yourself. The company picnic isn’t much fun. I have to remember to pay quarterly estimated taxes. And since I work from home, I have a tendency to go absolutely batshit crazy during these long New England winters. Come February, I begin to feel a bit like Jack in The Shining. My wife has been known to hide the rope and bullets.

But of course, one of the biggest drawbacks to working for yourself is that the health benefits blow. I have one of those high-deductible plans ($5,600/year) to keep the monthly premiums low. This means I’m out of pocket for everything until that point (with premiums, we’re talking about $8,000-$9,000 per year, give or take an ER visit).

Sick visits, check-ups, vaccines… all mine. My wife’s annual physical with all her girlie tests and bloodwork usually runs me $600-$800. My six-year old son gets frequent ear aches. A recent visit to the ear doctor: $350. Prescription nasal spray: $97. Waiting an hour and a half to see a doctor so he could tell me something I already knew: priceless.

Well, boo-hoo for me, right? But since I’ve never had a “real job,” I don’t know otherwise. It goes with the territory.  Considering more than 45 million people are uninsured in the U.S. right now, I’m just glad I have health insurance and can afford to pay the ridiculous premiums that give me nothing in return. Hopefully, they’ll be there for me if I ever really need them.

To be honest with you, I find all this talk of socialized or nationalized health care so amusing. In a recent World Health Organization health-care ranking, France came in first, while the U.S. rocked it in 37th (but at least we’re not lowly Cuba, waaay down in 39th place). While this news at first helped to rally support for healthcare overhaul, it is unlikely our system and shameful ranking will improve much any time soon – for two main reasons:

1. The United States is broke(n). We borrow money from China and other countries just so we can stay afloat and keep fighting two wars that can never be won. The only way to pay for it is by borrowing more, cutting existing services, and increasing taxes. Ugh.

2. People, especially Big Business, hate change. There are too many powerful people who like things just the way they are: insurance companies, pharmaceutical companies, politicians. For big business, change = risk, and risk is bad. This has nothing to do with what’s best for the American people. It simply is the way of things.

While I may seem cynical or pessimistic, I’m really more of a realist. I’m simply not counting on the yo-yo’s in Washington to make my problems (e.g., costly healthcare) disappear. And neither should you. That’s why I went ahead and created my own healthcare reform plan to help any of my fellow Americans who may be sitting around on the couch, munching on Doritos, waiting for the government to save the day… New and Improved Universal Health Plan - Guaranteed to Work!So while you can’t change the health care system, you can do things to greatly improve the quality and quantity of your years. Be proactive. Don’t wait for illness to take over your life. I know it sounds overly simple and trite, but try to stay healthy. Read about proper diet and lifestyle habits from highly regarded experts such as Dr. Andrew Weil. Start an exercise regimen. A healthy, fit body is better at fighting off disease than one that is sedentary and regularly stuffed with junk food. Poor choices cause more health problems than anything else.

Just remember: No one is coming to the rescue.

It’s up to you…

Post image for This is Egor. He lives in my head…

I’d like to introduce you to Egor. He is the little demon who lives in my head. I’m willing to bet he probably spends a fair amount of time in your head, too. His hobbies include: criticizing, complaining; inspiring negativity, pettiness and jealousy; and, crushing delicate new ideas before they’ve had a chance to sprout and blossom. Meaner than mean. Nastier than nasty. Egor will ruin your life, if you let him…

Sometimes I don’t hear from Egor for a while and I think he’s found a new place to live. But it turns out that he was just napping. And when hen he wakes up and rears his ugly head, oh man, is he harsh. Maybe your Egor is similar to mine. He might say things like:

This is Egor. He's a nasty little bugger.

Who is this Egor and what does he want?

My wife and I were out enjoying an autumn morning walk yesterday. We were talking about one of my projects, and I fell into a temporary stupor of negativity, whining about why I couldn’t do something I wanted to do. My wife said, “Ah, looks like your ego is taking hold again.” I then smiled, realizing it wasn’t “me” who was feeling inferior. It was just the voice of my ego.

Having a degree in psychology, I’d long been familiar with the term “ego,” but more in a Freudian id, ego, super-ego sense (according to Dr. Sigmund “Tell Me About Your Mother” Freud, these are the three main components of the human psyche). But it wasn’t until I discovered the book The Power of Now ten years ago by a then-unknown author, Eckhart Tolle, that the term took on a powerful new meaning.

EGOR = EGO = UNCONSCIOUSNESS

In A New Earth, Tolle’s follow-up to The Power of Now, he says:

eckhart-tolle-black-n-white“Whenever you notice that voice, you will also realize that you are not the voice, but the one who is aware of the voice. The moment you become aware of the ego in you, it is strictly speaking no longer the ego, but just an old, conditioned mind-pattern. Ego implies unawareness [emphasis added]. Every time it is recognized, it is weakened.”

Most people hear some kind of a voice in your head. For some, it comes and goes. But for others (most), it’s incessant. Here’s what you need to know about that nagging voice: it isn’t you. You are not the voice in your head. It is that of Egor the Ego. You are not him. He is not you.

Perhaps you’re thinking, “What voice? I’m not some schizoid-nutball like you with voices in my head!” But the thing is, that voice making the angry denial is the voice in your head.

When I first encountered this new idea in The Power of Now, I thought to myself, “Of course I’m the voice in my head! Who else would I be?!” But then, I had one of those glorious “Ah-Ha!” moments. It suddenly dawned on me: If I really am the voice, the thinker – then who is listening to the voice and watching the thinker?

The watcher. The real Me. And the real you.

Compulsive thinking run amuck

That voice almost seems to have a life of its own. Tolle says, “Most people are so completely identified with the voice in the head – the incessant stream of involuntary and compulsive thinking and the emotions that accompany it – that we may describe them as being possessed by their mind.”

This egoic false self fueled by an addiction to compulsive thinking has other names. Albert Einstein referred to it as “an optical illusion of consciousness.” Tolle sometimes refers to it as the “unobserved thinker.” The ego isn’t right or wrong, good or bad. It is simply an unconscious and dysfunctional identification with thought.

It sounds bizarre. Most people I talk to have difficulty with the concept, which is why I don’t bring it up in social settings unless I hope not to be invited back. Maybe they don’t want to get it. It’s scary at first. The sudden realization that you are not who you thought you were your whole life can be overwhelming. But with that, comes the realization that you are actually so much more.

What’s important to know is that the ego thrives on things like fear and greed – anything with emotional attachments that can take you out of the present moment. When you are present, you are conscious. When you are worried about the past or the future, you are unconscious, and under the influence and control of Egor.

Awareness is the key

If you are interested in exploring this further, I recommend you first read The Power of Now and/or A New Earth. I cannot do them justice in a short article here. Check with your local library if you don’t want to buy them. And once you’ve read at least one of them, check out the free Oprah/Eckhart teleseminars. While I admit, there is a certain snooze factor to the videos, there is much to be learned – if you can stay awake long enough.

My goal isn’t to try and convince you that your current way of looking at yourself and how you fit in the world is wrong, and I am right. I just want you to know that maybe, just maybe, there’s something important you’ve been missing all along. Something that can permanently free you from the chains of negativity, hopelessness and despair that bind so many people.

And here’s the best part: it’s free. You don’t have to sell all your belongings and donate everything to some new age church. You don’t have to buy an expensive course, go back to school or even abandon your faith. You just need to open your mind to the possibility that you are not your thoughts. And then watch what happens. Just being aware that there is a separateness from your thoughts is all it takes. For me, this new awareness helped bring about peace of mind and a better way of life.

The secret to silencing Egor is simple: You don’t fight him. Just stay in the moment. Be aware, and be here, now. That’s it.

So back to that walk with my wife…

Once I became aware that the self-sabotaging voice wasn’t me, I felt a sudden burden had been lifted. The pressure and negativity were gone. I was back in the moment. As soon as I realized my concerns were nothing but a messy cocktail of fear and regret, peace returned and I was able to focus and get back to work.

So, we decided to name our ego. This way, when it starts taking over, when we start fretting about things that happened, or worrying about events we have yet to experience, we can say, “Oh, no worries. It’s just Egor.”

And then he just fades away…Lonely Egor

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I grew up in central New Jersey in the ’70’s. As a kid who loved baseball, I had three choices if I wanted to follow a team on TV: the Mets, the Phillies, or the Yankees. The broadcast signal from Philly wasn’t so great, so that ruled them out. The hapless Mets were unwatchable. And the Yankees were in the midst of a resurgence, playing and winning for the first time since the days of Mantle and Maris.

And then there was what I refer to as “the dirt connection.” Where our new suburban home was constructed, there was once sprawling farmland. If you haven’t heard, there’s nothing like fresh Jersey tomatoes and corn. There’s a reason they call it the Garden State. (There’s more to the state than great beaches, traffic and big hair.) The top soil that had once covered the land where we lived had been stripped away and was rumored to have been trucked off to the Bronx for the new the field in the recently rennovated Yankee Stadium.

So the decision was a no-brainer. I was a Yankee fan. And I still am.

Mr. October, Reggie Jackson

I can't even look at a Reggie Bar

I remember being eight years old, sneaking out of bed during the ‘77 World Series to watch game six from the hallway floor leading to our family room. I watched with subdued glee (remember, I was in hiding) as Reggie Jackson belted three monstrous home runs in a row, each on the first pitch, leading the Yanks to the Series title. (I also have another Reggie memory, which is of me throwing up from eating too many Reggie Bars, but that’s for another day…)

So here I am now, 32 years later, basking in the afterglow of last night’s championship victory over the defending champs, the Phillies. After a nine year hiatus, and for the twenty-seventh time, the Yankees are the last ones standing. But this time, my friends and neighbors aren’t happy, as I am currently stranded in Red Sox nation.

I live in Connecticut, about 75 miles from Boston. As you get closer to New York, you’ll of course find a higher percentage of Yankee fans. But up here, the split is probably 95/5 in favor of the BoSox. And let me tell you, they take the Yankee – Red Sox rivalry very seriously up here. To the point where you have to wonder if there’s a genetic mutation that affects born and bred New Englanders.

According to some Sox fans, they were jinxed with with 86 years of frustration and heartbreak when the Red Sox sold Babe Ruth to the Yankees after the 1919-1920 season. After the Sox had overcame a 3-0 deficit and beat the Yankees in the American League Championship Series in 2004, they went on to win the World Series and the Curse of the Bambino was finally lifted. They celebrated in New England like, well…, like the Red Sox had finally won the Series. Yankee fans either faced brutally relentless taunting, or simply went into hiding.

But as a Yankee fan, it didn’t bother me when the Sox finally won. Afterall, we Yankee fans had enjoyed 26 titles up to that point. Sox fans hadn’t seen a championship since the year the Finnish Civil War began and Czechoslovakia declared independence from Austria-Hungary (that’s 1918, for the history-challenged).

Ben Affleck - Sox Fan Extraordinaire

Yet another reason not to switch sides

Despite the fact that Boston won it all in 2004 – and then again in 2007 – I think all those years of losing has altered their DNA and made diehard Red Sox fans a bitter, angry bunch. They secretly, but more often openly, express hatred for the Yankees – and their fans.

I must confess: I do have serious concerns about these people.

While I was at a family kiddie party one afternoon in Massachusetts a few years ago, the Sox lost a close one (remember the word “kiddie” – this wasn’t a bachelor party). After the swearing and tantrums had subsided, one of the fathers apparently noticed a hint of joy on my face. When learning the reason I was not equally distraught, he summoned his 4-year-old son.

Over strolls this little kid wearing an oversized Red Sox hat and shirt, ice cream cake all over his face. His dad looks at him and says, “Now Jimmy, this guy here is a wicked big Yankee fan. What do you have to say about that?”

“THE YANK-EES SUCK! THE YANK-EES SUCK!”

“Now that’s my boy!”

Father and son exchange high fives, and the little mutant confidently wanders off back to his lair, like it was all in a day’s work. Mission complete. While I doubt it was the first time I’d ever been verbally assaulted by a preschooler, I do admit, there was something special about the experience.

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@ a Yankee/Red Sox Game

But overall, my family and I do have fun with the rivalry. My wife is a Sox fan, as is our older son, who polarized Daddy when he was two. Our younger son jumped to my defense upon hearing Daddy was terribly outnumbered, and now proudly wears his colors, even in hostile New England territory. I no longer feel so utterly alone.

But I do understand. It is easy to hate the Yankees, George Steinbrenner, and everything they represent. They have money, influence and the support of a huge fan (and tax) base. But when shipbuilder George bought the Yankees from CBS for a paltry $8.7 million in 1973, he bought a team that was holding on for dear life, a former champion whose glory days seemed to be gone forever.

Most baseball enthusiasts who are not Yankee fans are crying and screaming about how New York bought a(nother) championship. No doubt, money was spent to bring the trophy home. Big money. But the people who complain about the Yankees are the same ones who would be celebrating if their team’s owner only had enough balls and smarts to raise and risk that kind of insane coin – just to win.

It was George’s vision and bold action that gradually restored the Yankees to glory, building a multi-billion dollar empire in the process. Yes, mostly thanks to George, payrolls and ticket prices have skyrocketed, and I have to choose between taking my family to a game once a year or contributing to my kids’ college tuition fund (ahhh… screw it, that’s what scholarships are for).

Baseball is no longer just a game. Long gone is any aura of a national pastime. You can bitch and moan about it. Or you can accept it for what it is: Baseball is big business.

The owners who are able to hire the best help (managers and players) are able to offer the best product (team) to the marketplace. Fans (the consumers) are willing to pay good money to enjoy a better product (tickets and merchandise and $12 beers) as long as it makes them feel good (winning). If the team wins, the fans feel good, and they will continue to buy the product, thereby inflating the owner’s bank account and allowing him (or her?) to continually improve the product and retain the help (hopefully). Throw in a lot of hard work and a little luck, and you’ve got yourself a winner.

So the Yankees won the World Series last night. As a Yankee fan, it feels good. All is well in the universe. Things are as they should be. But I know this feeling is fleeting. And in the scheme of things, it means next to nothing – little more than a temporarily pleasant distraction from problems of actual importance.

Nonetheless… life goes on for a Yankee fan stuck in Red Sox land. I’m just happy I didn’t accidentally go with the Mets.


Picture credits: Reggie, Affleck @ Fenway, Angry Boston Kid